Wednesday, October 21, 2015

It's not so easy writing about nothing*...

Earlier this week I finished Patti Smith's new book, M Train. I'm a huge Patti Smith fan; she's one of my musical idols and her first book, Just Kids, is one of my all time favorite books. I've been eagerly awaiting M Train and was not disappointed in my experience. It was very different from Just Kids; there was no specific narrative although there was a connection throughout the work. Where Just Kids focused on Patti in New York in the 1970s, M Train moved through time with some rhyme and reason. Much of the book is about travel and her life with her late husband, Fred "Sonic" Smith (of the band MC5). I was so impressed with the sadness in M Train; it never became maudlin or a Patti Smith pity party. It's just there like it is in life. If you're a fan of Patti Smith you should add this to your reading list.

M Train is also the last book I'll read until the end of November. Yes friends, it's almost time for National Novel Writing Month! For the last two Novembers, I've spent the month writing a 50,000 word novel in one month and refraining from doing things like reading, being social, and eating complete meals. I'm a planner even when writing so I typically use October for prep for the month. It's actually encouraged; as long as you don't write any of the actual novel, you can do prep prior to the start. For my past novels, I did things like character sketches, timelines (very important last year), and ideas for endings while not actually writing anything. The character sketches were probably the best prep I did. Each of my characters, particularly in my first year, were fully fleshed out before I started. I knew all the details I needed to make them come alive on the page and I felt very connected to each one. Last year, I did a little less on the characters (although they all had a complete bio) and more on the locations I featured throughout the story. Those places were characters and I wanted them to be as present and realistic as possible especially since most of them are real places that you can go to (or could have gone to at one point in history).

I had every intention to get prepped for this year. In September I settled on my idea and should have been in a good place to start mapping out the characters, deciding which war my reenactors would reenact, and was set to create to fictitious museums. All I had to do was figure out how the ancient order of museum scholars would fracture and become the warring factions they are today.

None of this happened. Every time I sat down to write something, I would stop or get distracted by something else (it's my patriotic duty to watch reruns of NCIS on USA). Despite really liking the idea and wanting to create this world, I just couldn't get into it. This is even after sharing with my writing buddy and a new NaNoWriMo participant. Both thought the idea was good and that there was potential for some cool characters and everyone loves ancient orders of one thing or another. My heart wasn't in it and if my heart's not in it, I know it won't work. Over the weekend I decided to scrap the whole idea and start over again. With two weeks until the start of NaNoWriMo. I guess this is my year of living dangerously.

So what will this year's novel be about instead? There's no ancient society of anything. No museums to create, no art to describe. I could focus on baking, my other favorite hobby, and build on some of my short stories from over the summer (not the same characters of course since that would break the rules). I could but I'm not. I could write a full length Pickles novel but I'm saving Pickles stories for when I decide to start writing children's books.

I was in Leesburg this weekend attending a friend's wedding and the idea came to me as we (my parents and I) were driving around Leesburg. I'm pretty sure this was my first time officially in Leesburg; it's kinds of a strange place. There's are lots of developed areas (shopping centers, the outlets, breweries for miles, and strip malls) and the historic town of Leesburg. It's retained the loveliness of an old Virginia town. And then there are these long stretches of farmland and vineyards that come out of nowhere. It's a jarring contrast and it made me think of all the little towns I've driven through and visited around Virginia. Some of them are nothing more than a few buildings and a street or two; others are just a sign that says you were in one place and now you're not. We develop areas so quickly and haphazardly (or so it seems) these days. Driving around Leesburg and the surrounding area helped me form an idea that I hope I'll be able to develop during the month. I also hope I can get my act together and get some characters figured out sooner rather than later.

There's no title yet; it'll come eventually. The story will focus on a family owned roadside attraction in a small Virginia town (not unlike Dinosaur Land) and the family who owns it and has to make some decisions about the future of their business and their legacy. Rather than dinosaurs, my roadside attraction will focus on mythical creatures from multiple cultures and areas of literature. I'll still get to include my museum character in the form of the daughter of the current owner of the attraction. Like her "sisters" in my previous novels, she'll be looking for her home and community, something I think about often in my own life. There will be humor and conflict and emotion and mermaids; all the things you want in a novel.

Here's where I need your help. I'm letting you, my lovely Island readers, decide two things this year:
  1. Which mythical creatures should be part of the roadside attraction? I can't say that I'll use all of your suggestions (I already have my own ideas mapped out and have let a few key friends pick one or two) but input is fun and it's possible I've left out a creature or six.
  2. Do I allow you to read along with me as I write? Or do I "publish" the finished novel at the end of the month? For the past two years, I've posted excerpts from the novel on the blog and shared the finished version via a Google Doc link with a few people but maybe it's time to share the whole thing with the world. 
So Island readers, I leave it to you. Post your thoughts in the comments and we'll see where the month takes us.

Next week: One final Lazy Movie Weekend before NaNoWriMo begins. We'll take a look at one of my favorite Halloween movies that no one seems to have seen.


*from M Train by Patti Smith

Friday, October 9, 2015

Your Resident Single Friend: Passing notes in class would be easier

I got an email this week from the online dating site I belong to letting me know that "successful" people who have been part of the site for the same amount of time as me (14 days, 18 by the time you read this) sent and received more messages than I have in the same amount of time. I assume this information is supposed to be motivational. I want to believe that this company cares and that the person on the other end of that email was sitting in his/her cubicle thinking "This email will be awesome! It will push those shy/unsure/socially awkward guys/gals out of their comfort zone and help them find their matches and get out there in love!" And then a bluebird landed on their desk and a group of squirrels brought them coffee.

I may be a bit cynical.

I was not motivated by this email. Instead, it made me feel bad. I get it, writing a good email is hard. Intention and tone are challenging and mass emails are even worse. The message is clear: you are not trying hard enough. This email made me want to cancel by subscription and tell this company exactly where they could place that email. Signing up for online dating is stressful enough; why would they want me to feel bad about it in the process?

Back in March I decided I would apply for Date Lab and create an online dating profile. At the time, I only applie for Date Lab. I thought I'd see if I was one of those Date Lab people who immediately got set up with someone or if I would be one who would get matched five years later. I'm guessing five years later is my fate. Anyway, since I had done "the work" of applying for Date Lab I basically had the answers to my profile ready but I didn't move forward with part two of this plan until fourteen-ish days ago when I decided to throw caution to the dating wind and get online.

For someone like me, an introvert with a lot of very specific likes and dislikes who has not had great luck in the dating world, creating an online dating profile is like that dream where you show up at an important presentation completely naked or only speak gibberish - terrifying and ridiculous. It's outside of my comfort zone.Yes, I can talk to a group of employees or museum visitors about my personal life or whatever we're discussing. I have a shared experience with those groups so the interaction is different. Online dating is all about putting yourself out there and creating an image of yourself that is truthful while still be exciting and captivating. You have to stand out and sparkle in some way. Introverts are not great at sparkling. I don't want to lie in my profile (a helpful article in The Washington Post this past weekend assures me that lying on profiles is a myth). While I don't have to use my name in my screen name or even share incredibly identifiable information (although some people do), it's still about talking about myself in a self-promotional way that I'm not very good at. I just want to be myself as this post on Quiet Revolution suggests. My friend Jordana offered a "recommendation" of sorts to add if I wanted to; she described me as "Wes Anderson witty" and as "an organized dreamer." I may or may not have used one of those phrases in my profile. Mostly I want to come across as fun, quirky, smart, and date-able.

I believe I've accomplished that to some extent. In my first day on the site, I received three photo likes (I'm guessing it was because of the dinosaurs in the background), a profile like, and an email from someone who's screen name left something to be desired. Seriously, using "yolo" in any identifying way is a bad life choice. I couldn't take him seriously so it was a delete on my end. I've done my daily check in of reading matched profiles and liking guys I found funny or interesting. And that's about it. I have not emailed, winked, or done any of the other things that feel suspiciously like a more expensive form of passing notes in middle school. And the site agrees; I'm not working to my full dating site potential. I'm not being "successful" and outgoing like those other members. I guess the fear of being rejected is strong even in a somewhat anonymous online world. Sad but true.

Of course I have not given up. The process is far too entertaining to give up and I am hopeful that it will at least lead to meeting a gentleman or two. Nicknames have been fun: "yolo" guy, Spaniel guy (he emailed me about walking his dog in the rain), decoupage guy (I told Jordana I would email him because his profile made me laugh for the right reasons rather than say, the terrible grammar or wildly inappropriate screen name), and possibly has a secret family guy (all of his photos feature a different woman with no explanation as to her identity - I assume it means he has a secret family). I was also matched with someone who I know...kind of. I don't know him well and I'm fairly certain he wouldn't recognize me out of context (we're work acquaintances). I feel like this can only get better; eventually the job search-like quality of the search will become actual communication.

What I'm most comforted by is the support I've received from my friends. There is a group at work who I refer to as "The Ladies Committee." If given access and permission I'm certain they would do all the rating, liking, and winking for me but I have not allowed that. Yet. I hope they'll help me agonize over an email when a potential date arises (because that's what girls do) and keep me from going on painful dates (or at least only a few of them). Two of my friends would like to be present on dates just in case or to be able to interview them. There was some discussion around communications equipment like ear pieces; a bit much but the sentiment is appreciated. One of my guy friends even told me that he would never do this and admired that I had but myself out there despite the awkwardness and potential for disappointment.

As I said back in March, the key to being successful (or at least trying this whole thing) is being comfortable with yourself. I know I'm awesome (just telling the truth). There is someone out there equally awesome who will appreciate my awesomeness.

And dinosaurs. He'll have to appreciate dinosaurs.

The photo that got the likes.

Friday, October 2, 2015

Unintentional Freddy Krueger

Fall is my absolute favorite season. The crisp air screams possibility. I love that I can start wear my favorite sweaters and scarves but that it's still warm enough for just a light jacket. Of course there's also candy corn and apples and a small amount of pumpkin flavored things (I prefer pumpkin cookies and pie - that's it). I've been looking forward to getting my crock-pot out so I can make stews and soups and what about casseroles!? It's perfect casserole weather. My favorite holidays, Halloween and Thanksgiving, are just around the corner. They always seem to get the short shrift as Christmas creeps into our lives earlier and earlier every year. I know Christmas can't help itself but we can all play our parts in keeping the madness at bay. I bought some new Halloween kitchen towels and a skull cup from Target earlier this week. The skull cup looks nice on my desk at work.

It's unfortunate that our first truly fall like weekend happens to be accompanied by the impending doom of Hurricane Joaquin. I'd like to believe that this weekend will just be a weekend of rain and heavier than normal wind rather than a full out hurricane. Regardless of which weather event actually occurs, I decided it would be best if I focused on the positive side of needing to spend the majority of my time indoors this weekend. There are only 29 days left until Halloween and we have lots of movies to watch.  And frankly, 13 Nights of Halloween just aren't enough.

Three years ago I wrote a post centered on my favorite Halloween movies. I suggested 50 whole movies to get you through until Halloween. This year I thought I'd help you create the ultimate movie marathon by suggesting groupings of these movies. I like a little bit of everything when it comes to scary movies and more family friendly seasonal fare. In addition to the list of movies let's rejoice in the return of American Horror Story and the premiere of The Evil Dead tv series on Starz (on Halloween of course).

What do you need to really enjoy a fall movie marathon? Popcorn, Twizzlers (never Red Vines - we're not animals), wine (your choice), and a pillow to hide your eyes behind if you're so inclined.

Let's begin...

Sleeping with the Lights on for the Rest of the Week - these are serious horror films that involve exorcism, creepy little girls, and a clown. Just remember I warned you.
  • The Exorcist
  • The Shining
  • IT
  • Carrie (mostly because of the creepy Jesus statue and the very end of the movie)
Funny and Mostly Family Friendly Fare - I know Raul Julia is no longer with us but what do you think it would take to get another Addams Family movie? We could pick up with Wednesday as an adult or maybe Morticia has finally been able to join the dark forces' hellish crusade.
  • The Addams Family 
  • Addams Family Values (although this really is more of a Thanksgiving movie)
  • The Worst Witch
  • Hocus Pocus
  • Haunted Honeymoon
  • Coraline
  • ParaNorman (although this movie is a bit scarier than I expected)
Tim Burton's Brain - Some of my favorite movies are Tim Burton movies.
  • Corpse Bride
  • Beetlejuice
  • The Nightmare Before Christmas
  • Edward Scissorhands 
  • Frankenweenie
  • Sleepy Hollow
Old School Villains - I bought a sweater this week that unintentionally evokes the image of Freddy Krueger. It's my new favorite sweater.
  • Halloween
  • The Texas Chainsaw Massacre
  • Nightmare of Elm Street
  • Friday the 13th
  • The Mummy, Dracula, Bride of Frankenstein, The Wolfman (old school Universal creature features)
Cult Classics - None of these are particularly scary (although Near Dark and Repulsion are close) but they're all awesome.
  • Rocky Horror Picture Show
  • Cat People 
  • Freaks
  • Near Dark
  • Repulsion
  • Evil Dead trilogy 
 Creepy Not Scary - You can also add any other movie Vincent Price was in. He was never overtly scary, just creepy and sinister.
  • The People Under the Stairs
  • The Haunting (1963)
  • Rosemary's Baby
  • Let the Right One In
  • House on Haunted Hill (1959)
  • The Others
I've provided six movie marathons to get you started. Add more to the comments because yes, I've left off almost every vampire movie ever made, Ghostbusters, and Child's Play. Don't get mad, give suggestions. If these weren't enough Crimson Peak opens October 16th. I'm not saying I took the day off to go see it but I did take the day off so I should probably use that time wisely and go see this movie. That's really all that makes sense. 
 
Unintentional Freddy Krueger sweater - do you think I should use this on my online dating profile with that caption?


Hurricane Joaquin